Racism and Misogyny and the harassment of women of color
There is an uptick of negative Meghan Markle news popping up in what feels like an intentional smear from Buckingham Palace ahead of a rare interview with Oprah airing Friday, March 7th, with Harry and Meghan
Another round of racism and sexism arguing Meghan’s right to exist in her space.
As a woman, and a woman of color, she has earned success as an actress, and humanitarian. She is also married to Prince Harry, 6th in line to head of the British monarchy. …
My first day as a foster parent didn’t go as planned.
I became a mother in the parking lot of a Uni Mart convenience store in Pleasant Gap, Pennsylvania. A kind of town never once a blink of promise. I imagined it an easy target for eighty dollar robberies and drug deals, only for it’s smallness and inconsequential existence.
Every mother has a story for how they earned their name. Stories highlighted by emergencies, last minute decisions, flights to exotic locations, incredible agony and strength. Holding onto those stories, I want to tell you mine.
Back to the Uni Mart…
I was not OK with it. A lesson is loving.
I broke down when I saw her in a hospital bed wearing the hospital gown. It was just a picture because we live three thousand miles away now. She wasn’t wearing any makeup, getting ready to head into surgery with a smile on her face.
I sat at my kitchen table, put my phone down, and the tears rolled down my face. I was scared, and my heart pounded out of my chest. My friend, she seemed joyous and fine. I was not. She said we could Facetime, but I…
She was an inspiration for her honest and subtle feminist songs, and a public example of the power of misogyny.
Gimme a beat….
Janet Jackson is celebrating the 35th anniversary of the release of her 3rd studio album, Control. It was a huge commercial success, and paved the way for every other solo female pop artist who wanted to maintain creative control of their work and public persona.
In celebration of Janet’s work, and the 35th anniversary of the release of Control and its contribution to culture, I ranked her 10 best songs.
I was a huge fan of Janet…
Some secrets to success on Medium
It was the third article I wrote for medium, the first to be curated. I was thrilled to be curated, finally getting into the groove on medium. It was November, 2019.
My article was curated into Culture. For six months, though, the article didn’t make any money- just a couple dollars a month. Then, during month six, the article made $186.00. It grew exponentially every month, making more and more money. So far, it’s made over $1700.00.
It took me four hours to write.
I thought it was amusing for the randomness of this…
I was not surprised
She had a tone deaf quality, an aura of entitlement that felt so out of place it was easy to dismiss. Clear to me now it was a shield against her own feelings of entrapment in a life that was unexpected in its unhappiness.
Mirinda was short and slightly too thin, with long brown hair and brown eyes. Her hair was wavy, and she used a lot of gel to hold it in place. The gel made it look almost wet all the time.
She was tan all year round. Even when the winter months of…
Brian Wilson teaches us how to experience joy, even during dark times
It was almost sunset on the sunset strip. The palm trees a shadow in the sky as the winds rolled down the canyon, soft and warm. The end of another sunny day in southern California.
It’s February 1966, and the traffic just a fraction of today. Car exhaust drifting through the air, Brian Wilson headed to another studio to create music with another group of studio musicians. He needed to get the music out of his head. …
My son almost died. The importance of believing women on their word
I was sent to a Rheumatologist by my family physician for care for early onset osteoarthritis, but also a collection of symptoms that didn’t quite fit the model. I was experiencing overall muscle weakness, too.
I chronicle this story in another essay, but the doctor told me it was all in my head. He didn’t deny the diagnosis, confirmed by x-ray imaging and an MRI, but that psychotherapy was the proper course of action to “change the perception of pain in my body.”
Tears rolled down my face…
I grew up working class in a safe neighborhood. I was accepted into college but was the third generation to attend. It wasn’t a surprise, it was expected I would attend. It was expected I would succeed. It was a place of privilege.
After second-wave feminism, I was assured the world would open up for me. I grew up in the 1980s where the culture taught girls they could be anything they wanted. Not President, but almost anything else.
Innocently, I pushed my way into the world. Innocently, I was all-knowing by the time I was out of adolescence. My…
Democracy strengthens when it almost fails
On May 4th, 1970, The National Guard fired a spray of bullets into a mostly white college protest at Kent State University in Ohio. They killed four students, wounding nine. Two of the students killed were not even attending the protest.
The protesting was sparked by the US military invasion of Cambodia, considered an escalation of an unpopular war. By the time the National Guard sprayed bullets on the green campus lawn, the movement to end the war was over.
Nationwide, student protests were losing their fight to end the war. Many individual campus…